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Today is World Obesity Day, what does that mean?

Today, 11th October, is World Obesity Day.

Each year the organisers, the World Obesity Federation,  focus upon a different aspect of the issue, with this year being weight stigma.

In 2017 they touched upon how we needed to make changes immediately since the number of adults suffering from overweight and obesity continued to rise with trends in 2017 indicating that 2.7 billion adults worldwide will suffer from overweight and obesity by 2025.

2016 saw their focus being upon the data which indicated infant, childhood and adolescent obesity is rising around the world.

Making the 2018 issue one of weight stigma could not of been taken without strong consideration, since there are few research tests that would suggest that being overweight is beneficial & so there’s going to be a clear need to tread a fine line between guiding people towards reducing their weight from unhealthy levels whilst not demonising them for the weight they’re are at currently.

It’s never appropriate to name-call or be disparaging about someone for their weight, nor should we assume they’re lazy or don’t care about themselves, since having worked with many clients around weight issues I know all of those statements would be false.

It’s also important to ensure nobody is discriminated because of their weight and their suggestion of focusing on ‘people-first’ language, such as “you have obesity” as opposed to “you are obese” is a much better way of speaking, rather like “you’re someone who gets anxious” instead of “you’re an anxious person”.

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Statistically speaking, only a very small percentage of the population engage in regular exercise, however, it’s those people who’s images appear when advertising sports centres or fitness clothing, which can act to deter those who aren’t anywhere close to that ‘perfect’ body stage from ever beginning an exercise programme or to make changes to their diet.

Sometimes, to begin with, it’s all a client can do to take a 5 minute walk once a day, and to be ‘fat shamed’ wherever they look can act to stop them from going through the long-term necessary steps to improve their health and well being.

It’s going to be interesting to see whether the suggestions that the World Obesity Federation have suggested will help to improve the situation, hopefully it will, but go some way to begin to bridge the gap between on the one hand highlighting the benefits of reducing weight whilst not shaming the person themselves for the weight they would benefit from losing.

I’d be interested to hear what people think about this – comment below or get in touch direct if you’d like to discuss your own situation in confidence.

Scared stiff of or hate visiting the doctor or dentist? Read this

Dentists, doctors, nurses … injections, treatments … being sick, giving blood, having an examination … does the very thought of any of those situations fill you with dread & make you panic or feel sick?

And is it something that hangs around for weeks in advance?  

There’s ‘the appointment letter’, then the reminders, then the day of the appointment.

Perhaps you’ll need to wear one of those back-to-front white gowns, to take some funny tasking substance so they can look inside you more easily.

And then there’s all those white-coated people, the noise, the smells.

Yes, a fear of visiting a dentist or a doctor, or going to a hospital is a real fear and one which covers so much more than the actual event on that day.

If you’re one of the many millions of people who are afraid of situations involving any of the above, then it’s important you realise that they way you’re presently handling any of them can be changed.

I’ve worked with & helped many clients, some very young & others very old, all of whom have had a fear, a desperate desire to run away from those very places or events that a part of their mind was telling them would be too troubling to get involved in.

Clients have often found they’ve been able to be released from fears like these in a very short time, sometimes we’d have to meet for just a couple of appointments.


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And it’s not really that important how long you’ve had those feelings, or even if you know where they came from or first started, since the way I work means we’re much more interested in working out how you want to feel, rather than why you’re stuck with that automatic reaction of yours.

If you’d like to let go of a fear or a phobia you can always contact me in confidence or comment down below & I’ll get back to you.

Change is … always … possible

Have you been failing enough lately?

Have you been failing successfully lately?

Have you had some really good failures?

Are you failing enough or could you fail MORE?

I’m asking because many of my clients are very concerned about being no good at things, as if they themselves are failures every time they fail at something.

And if that’s the way you think about the things you do in your life, I’d suggest you’ve got things back to front.

You see, we only get better at stuff by ‘having a go’, trying it out, seeing what happens, etc.

Which will often mean that what we do first time around won’t be too good.

So what! What’s wrong with not being good at something the first time around, since that’s the only way we can ever get better at what we do.

Take something like maths (or math to you Yanks out there). To start with it’s all a jumble of rules, which, over time we begin to understand … & then the teacher goes and resets the syllabus & we’re back to square one again.


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But it’s only by going through this step by step understanding & non-understanding that our knowledge can grow.

Or if maths isn’t a good example for you, how about fitness or exercise?

First time in the gym and we’re each a blubbering, sweaty mass of worn out body lying in a pool of sweat (Well, I was, at least!)

But later, over time, with practice, those impossible moves, stretches or lifts become part of our rep range, & so what do we do next?

… we start trying to do better than before …

… and keep failing at that level until we ‘level up’.

…. and that’s how we go, each time.

So when you think about it that way, it’s true what they say, isn’t it …

… if you want to be more successful in life, fail faster.

So what have you failed at today?

Or what are you secretly afraid of failing at?

Reply below, I’m sure you’ll feel better once you do.