Articles tagged with: social anxiety

Today is World Obesity Day, what does that mean?

Today, 11th October, is World Obesity Day.

Each year the organisers, the World Obesity Federation,  focus upon a different aspect of the issue, with this year being weight stigma.

In 2017 they touched upon how we needed to make changes immediately since the number of adults suffering from overweight and obesity continued to rise with trends in 2017 indicating that 2.7 billion adults worldwide will suffer from overweight and obesity by 2025.

2016 saw their focus being upon the data which indicated infant, childhood and adolescent obesity is rising around the world.

Making the 2018 issue one of weight stigma could not of been taken without strong consideration, since there are few research tests that would suggest that being overweight is beneficial & so there’s going to be a clear need to tread a fine line between guiding people towards reducing their weight from unhealthy levels whilst not demonising them for the weight they’re are at currently.

It’s never appropriate to name-call or be disparaging about someone for their weight, nor should we assume they’re lazy or don’t care about themselves, since having worked with many clients around weight issues I know all of those statements would be false.

It’s also important to ensure nobody is discriminated because of their weight and their suggestion of focusing on ‘people-first’ language, such as “you have obesity” as opposed to “you are obese” is a much better way of speaking, rather like “you’re someone who gets anxious” instead of “you’re an anxious person”.

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Statistically speaking, only a very small percentage of the population engage in regular exercise, however, it’s those people who’s images appear when advertising sports centres or fitness clothing, which can act to deter those who aren’t anywhere close to that ‘perfect’ body stage from ever beginning an exercise programme or to make changes to their diet.

Sometimes, to begin with, it’s all a client can do to take a 5 minute walk once a day, and to be ‘fat shamed’ wherever they look can act to stop them from going through the long-term necessary steps to improve their health and well being.

It’s going to be interesting to see whether the suggestions that the World Obesity Federation have suggested will help to improve the situation, hopefully it will, but go some way to begin to bridge the gap between on the one hand highlighting the benefits of reducing weight whilst not shaming the person themselves for the weight they would benefit from losing.

I’d be interested to hear what people think about this – comment below or get in touch direct if you’d like to discuss your own situation in confidence.

Do you suffer with social anxiety?

When I was a child at school the phrase we used to describe being anxious was ‘having butterflies in your stomach’, and as we’re exposed to various situations those butterflies usually fly away.

For some people, however, those butterflies, stay inside and grow into hideous many headed monsters that bite away at their insides causing intense pain and suffering.

At this more extreme level we call it social phobia, which is actually one of the most common anxieties that clients have, often because it’s something which has a way of cropping up in so many different situations.


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Situations where social anxiety occurs.

Examples of where it can cause problems include:

  • Family gatherings
  • Moving school
  • Changing jobs
  • Going out on dates
  • Having to give presentations or talks
  • Office parties and events
  • Having to deal with officials
  • Having to use public toilets
  • Dealing with customer service departments, such as returning goods
  • Feeling like you’re being teased or called-out over something
  • Having to make eye contact with people
  • Being in a situation where you’re required to make ‘small-talk’
  • Having to exert authority over others


What are the symptoms of social anxiety?

Some of the physical symptoms experienced by suffers include:

  • Blushing
  • Fast heartbeat
  • Trembling
  • Sweating
  • Upset stomach or nausea
  • Trouble catching your breath
  • Dizziness or feeling lightheaded
  • Feeling that your mind has gone blank
  • Panic
  • Cramps or tension in muscles
  • Uncontrollable muscle twitches
  • Sometimes people develop dysmorphia concerning parts of their body that they feel are to ‘blame’ for the problem


What are the thoughts that suffers have?

Some the thoughts or actions that suffers go through include things like these:

  • Being fearful of situations in which you may be judged
  • Wanting to avoid doing things or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment
  • Worrying about embarrassing or humiliating yourself
  • Ruminating and in their thoughts expecting the worst possible consequences from any interactions
  • Worrying in advance and at the time having a strong fear of any interaction with strangers
  • Fear that others will notice that you look anxious, which results in you looking anxious
  • Worrying that they’re blushing, sweating, trembling or have a shaky voice
  • Trying so hard to control themselves that everything thing becomes ‘stiff’ and un-natural
  • Making complicated or detailed plans to avoid situations where they may be the focus of people’s attention
  • Playing out the numerous possibilities of how an event will go and having anxiety in anticipation things going wrong
  • If they do go to a social situation to experience a high level of fear or anxiety during the event
  • After the event to spend time replaying what occurred, blaming oneself for what went ‘wrong’ and feeling bad for not ‘simply getting over it’


Can I get over social anxiety?

I’m always pleased to speak to a client who has social anxiety because experience has shown that this responds very well to hypnosis and BWRT.

Oftentimes the social anxiety suffer has been covering up or hiding their feelings away from others for decades, perhaps arranging situations to try to keep their feelings under control.

For sufferers, to be free from having to make detailed and complex plans and to spend hours going through numerous ‘what-if’ scenarios comes as a welcome relief, so they can finally begin to live their life free from such a debilitating set of feelings.

If you or someone you know is troubled by social anxiety I’d be pleased to offer them an opportunity to discuss their situation and to see if I can suggest some ways this could be helped.

Reply below or complete my contact form for an in-confidence discussion. 

Were your school days the best days of your life?

It’s nearly back to school time (yikes!)

It’s around this time of the year that old problems regarding going back to school, or moving to a new school, begin to start playing even more heavily on the minds of parents and children.

Sometimes it’s just that normal slight apprehension about a new year, perhaps with new classmates & possibly a new uniform.

However, it can also mean that bullying, stress, name-calling and other problems, avoided for the last six weeks, are now going to start up all over again.

Sometimes there are steps the schools can carry out so as to make the things easier, however, in other instances children can get so caught up in what’s happened in the past that they seem unable to move on.


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Sometimes also, children are able to cope much better than their parents, who can become very stressed and anxious over issues that their children seem to be able to gloss over without any problems.

If you or your children are having issues around schooling or anything that’s affecting how you feel, there’s every possibility that I may be able to help you get to a much better place emotionally.

Never feel you’re stuck with no-one to speak to.

Following on from my earlier post here’s a message I received from parents of a child after working with them to help with school related issues that were challenging them,

“Hi Charles, thanks for the session, you were fab with X, miles better in one session than all the NHS counselling sessions put together.”


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If you need to speak about something that’s troubling you, holding you or your loved-ones back from having an enjoyable and satisfying life, feel free to get in touch for a confidential discussion.