Here are some answers to the more frequently asked questions about coaching, including how it contrasts with therapy.
Click on each question in turn to reveal the answer below.
Why might I want coaching?
That’s not a question I can answer, as coaching isn’t a ‘need’ – the want has to come from within you.
What I can tell you though is that once we’ve explored your personal issues around confidence or self esteem and how they affect your life and your goals, by the end of that conversation you’ll know whether you want the journey to continue.
Contact me and let’s see where we can take you.
What’s the difference between coaching and psychotherapy?
Both deal with what’s going on in your brain, however, they are each approaching a similar subject from totally different perspectives, since they have each grown out from separate places, psychotherapy and sports.
Therapy seeks to provide a release from past hurts and upsets, whereas coaching seeks to build upon your successes to enable you to live the life you want.
Call me and I’ll let you begin to experience what I mean, because experiencing beats explaining every time.
Will it work or have I left it too late to try?
The fact you’re asking the question means the answer is, “No, you’ve not left it too late.”
What’s probably happening in your mind at the moment is that you’re just doubting that it’ll work for you.
But you must want something in your life to be different, otherwise why else would you be visiting my website?
Call me – experiencing beats explaining every time.
Do you use hypnosis or hypnotherapy or BWRT® in coaching?
That’s a really good question. Hypnosis, NLP and BWRT® are methods and sets of approaches that enable our words to take on a powerful significance in our minds and so, yes, there is an overlap, and since I’ve used these techniques to help hundreds of clients, they are useful tools in my toolbox.
However, coaching is not therapy so there’s no reading of scripts, relaxing background music or swinging pocket watches (unless you really want me to bring one along!)
Call me – because experiencing beats explaining every time.
What is an underearner?
Being an underearner can affect someone in various areas of their life. Key issues include;
- Living with debt
- Being vague about your net worth and exact level of debt
- Being a success saboteur, eg frequent job changing
- Too often putting other people’s needs before your own
If you feel you exhibit issues such as this then I’d suggest you may be an underachiever, which also impacts upon your levels of success in various areas.
Will my medical insurance cover this?
It’s possible but will rather depend upon your specific individual or corporate medical insurance.
It’s worth considering, how your coaching sessions would be treated when they are accounted for by the insurance company and whether perhaps having a note on your medical records suggesting you have might received treatment for a ‘mental health issue’ will have an impact upon any career steps you wish to take.
This is one reason why the vast majority of my clients self-pay.
Can my doctor or GP refer me to you?
Yes, but it’s highly unlikely you’ll receive funding from them since coaching isn’t therapy and with the tightened budgets within the NHS, there’s probably no spare cash in their budget.
What if I’m unemployed or on a low income?
Thanks for being honest with me and I need to let you know that I don’t offer free coaching, so if that’s what you’re seeking you’d do best to contact the UK’s NHS or your whatever is provided in your own country.
I do sometimes offer on-line group coaching and so if you send me your details I’ll let know know when the next course is due to run.
However, and in the meantime, if it feels to you like we could be a fit, contact me, tell me why you want to work with me and let’s see what we can do.
How long does the coaching take?
Coaching is a process. Just like going to the gym, it’s not something to ‘do’ for a session and then stop.
Except for a VIP Transformation Day the shortest period I will work with a coaching client is across six to eight appointments, broadly covering 1-3 months, but for the strongest, deepest and most permanent changes, working together for a period of 6 – 12 months would be best.
With many clients we have developed out from our initial issues tackled and worked on new challenges so there is no maximum time to work together.
Why shouldn’t I just join a gym or take a class?
If you’re interested in losing weight or getting fitter then that’s a perfect idea, providing, however that you make sure you attended regularly a few times each week and follow all the necessary steps outside of that gym-time.
Remember; nobody can out-exercise a bad diet.
But data shows that having someone to hold you accountable WILL give you the motivation to keep going.
Later, you may find you can cut-free and motivate yourself, but to start with, having someone to keep you on track and who won’t accept any of your B.S. excuses will benefit you tremendously.
Why can’t I just buy a book on coaching or watch some You Tube videos and do it all myself?
You tell me.
It’s rather like comparing the difference between picking up a couple of ready-made T-shirts to take with you on a casual holiday, against having an item of clothing for a special occasion.
The first just fits if you’re lucky and are of average size, lasts a few washes and then falls apart, whereas the second fits you perfectly, helps you to create the image of who you want to be and stays the distance as you evolve as a person.
The choice is yours. Call me if you’d like to compare the two.
Do you only help with clients who have finance or business-related issues?
Not at all.
If you feel that I could help you take your life to the next level, to help you overcome some blocks that are holding you back, contact me and we can discuss this further.
Do you provide a guarantee or offer a refund if it doesn’t work for me?
I guarantee that I will commit totally to helping you to the best of my abilities.
No coach or therapist can ever guarantee an outcome because it’s impossible to know in advance whether a client will commit fully to the process.
Sometimes, for whatever reason, a client’s desire to change comes up against some unexpected personal issues which means the desired results are not achieved.
Simply put, they prefer to stay stuck rather than do the work required.
Experience has shown that when I’ve previously had enquiries from people who are too fixated upon guarantees they’ve often been people who weren’t as committed to making the changes they said they wanted … as if they wanted me to ‘do it for’ them.
But that’s not how the process works I’m afraid.
As my client your own desire and will power will be required for the process to work (which we can work on to make stronger if required) and so no, I do not give refunds as I have provided you with a service to the best of my abilities based upon your personal situation.
How can I discover more?
You’ve probably guessed my answer.
It’s “Call me or send me your contact details.”
Experiencing really does beats explaining, every time.